Yes, you can be scared – and still achieve your goals! Here are four ways to feel the fear and do it anyway, from Pat Barone. She is a personal and performance coach with Catalyst Coaching.
“Fear might be the natural impulsive reaction when sudden change occurs, but it’s not the best reaction,” says Barone. “In fact, fear is about the worst place to go during crisis or periods of change.” She’s referring to the U.S. financial crunch, which is causing world-wide fear, anxiety, and lifestyle changes. It’s easy to be afraid — but fear paralyzes and prevents you from moving forward, in the direction of your dreams.
“To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” ~Katherine Paterson. If your fear is related to stage fright, read How to Deal With Performance Anxiety for Musicians. And, here are four tips for achieving your goals from an experienced life coach…
4 Ways to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
Fear is a powerful emotion that shuts us down, and cuts us off from opportunity and possibility. When we feel fear, we rarely see things clearly or notice the good in our lives.
First, let’s define fear: F.E.A.R. = FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL.
Fear and anxiety causes a series of reactions
Our bodies constrict, tighten up, look down or inward, huddle in, and try to suppress the fear. We aren’t looking forward, we’re looking inward — and this doesn’t help us achieve our goals! We can’t see the bigger picture. Then, we start blaming/shaming in an attempt to feel less responsible for what is occurring. We blame other people. Chemical reactions occur in the body, with adrenaline and stress hormones flowing and circulating throughout our bodies. Under these circumstances, rash decisions are often made and we may start to “awfulize” our situation – making it worse than it actually is.
To feel the fear and do it anyway, be positive and take charge of the obstacles to achieving your goals.
1. Assess your life – Look at what’s really important to you. Be clear about what what your goals (achieving financial abundance, getting into college, losing weight, getting a promotion, etc) means to you. How important are your goals to your life?
If your career or professional life needs an overhaul, read How to Quit Your Job When You’re Scared.
2. Quarantine Fear – Clear fear from your thoughts. Whenever you notice fear and anxiety entering your thoughts, write them down on a piece of paper and systematically tear that paper up and throw it in the garbage. One of my clients created a “fear jar.” She took a large 5-gallon plastic water container and, every time she felt fear entering her mind, she wrote it down, crumpled it up and put it in the container. She was amazed how quickly it grew! It was confirmation of how much she had been living in fear in her life.
3. Go on the Offensive – Educate yourself; find your values; change the way you handle money; formulate a positive plan of action; get creative; and re-evaluate your priorities. Adopt an attitude of gratitude — because being grateful is the quickest mood-changer there, is and it doesn’t cost a dime.
4. Spend Your Money Differently – Make thoughtful, considerate decisions, purchases and investments. Make sure you feel good about where your money is going. Going to a restaurant? Spend your money at a place you love. In essence, you’re saying you want them to stay in business. If you’re anxious about money, read 4 Tips for Facing Financial Fears.
Realizing that you are making a choice about how to think is actually empowering. It reaffirms that you are in charge of your decisions, your attitude, and your life! If you struggle with perfectionism — which leads to fear and anxiety — read my article about overcoming perfectionism.
What do you think about these tips for feeling fear and achieving your goals anyway? I welcome your comments below…
Pat Barone is a performance coach with Catalyst Coaching; she helps clients all over the world make positive change in their lives.
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