Knowing how to affair proof your marriage can protect you from the aftermath of marital infidelity! These ways to affair proof your marriage are from marriage counselor Gary Neuman, on the Oprah Winfrey show.
Here, he explains why men cheat and offers three ways to affair proof your marriage. Neuman is all about avoiding infidelity — he says it’s easier to affair proof your marriage than rebuild trust after an affair.
“My goal is to empower women to bring out the best in their husbands, so wives can get the best out of their marriages,” said Neuman on Oprah. If women are empowered, men are less likely to cheat.
Neuman wrote The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It – and Oprah said that the book and the discussions are all about insight and information (not blaming wives if their husbands cheat).
Here, Neuman explains three ways to affair proof your marriage…
Ways to Affair Proof Your Marriage
The truth about marital infidelity is that men leave because they don’t have an emotional connection with their wives. It’s not primarily the physical intimacy that lures men away. Some men will cheat no matter what; Neuman says there’s something very wrong with them. They’re not cheating because of emotional disconnection in the marriage.
1. Appreciate your husband. Neuman says that one of the best ways to prevent cheating is to appreciate your husband. He encourages women to start conversations with their husbands when they feel emotionally disconnected. Once you start talking about it, you start reconnecting. “The more you give appreciation, the more it returns to you,” says Neuman.
This will affair proof your marriage because your husband will feel loved, appreciated, and respected at home…which makes him less likely to look for love elsewhere.
“Men receive appreciation and love from the woman they’re cheating with,” says Neuman. So, affair proof your marriage by loving and appreciating your husband as much as you can. One husband told Oprah and Neuman that the woman he cheated with called him a “Superman”, which made him want to be with her.
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Gary Neuman is currently writing another book about why women cheat, and how husbands can prevent their wives from having affairs.
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Would you ask your spouse to take a lie detector test if you thought he or she was cheating? I think asking shows a lack of trust and isn’t the best way to affair proof your marriage…but if it settles the suspicions once and for all, then it might be worth it.