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Thoughtful Sympathy Gifts for the Loss of a Mother

This collection of lovely, thoughtful sympathy gift ideas to honor the loss of a mother will help you express your support and compassion to a friend, coworker, or loved one.

loss of mother sympathy giftsThe Willow Tree Forget Me Not is a lovely sympathy gift for a coworker or friend – all the Willow Tree figurines are so beautiful. They speak in quiet ways to heal, comfort, protect, and uplift the recipient’s spirits. Expressing your compassion after the loss of a mother may feel awkward because death is uncomfortable and difficult to talk about. However, remember that your gift of sympathy can say more than your words. Your actions are meaningful and important, and your simple, quiet presence will comfort your friend. Below, you’ll find a collection of thoughtful sympathy gifts for the loss of a mother, ranging from general expressions of compassion to more intimate gestures of love, support, and spiritual healing.

If you’re searching for sympathy gifts for a death that hasn’t happened yet, you may want to read Thoughtful Gifts for Someone Who is Dying. I know it’s sad and difficult to think about buying a sympathy gift before the loss of a mother or another loved one, but in some situations its appropriate and even healthy to acknowledge the end of a life.

And, here’s a thoughtful poem to put in the sympathy card:

“Those we love don’t go away
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near
Still loved, still missed and very dear.”
– unknown

Since finding the right words of comfort is almost as difficult as finding the right sympathy gift idea, I sprinkled several sayings throughout this article.

Sympathy Gifts for the Loss of a Mother

These gifts that express sympathy after a mother’s death range from personal to practical items, to give you a wide range of ideas to think about.

A sympathy candle, for comfort and warmth

Sympathy Gifts Loss of a Mother

Candle Sympathy Gift

The Pavilion Gift Company Comfort Candle is a lovely sympathy gift, especially if you include a message about the endurance of a lost loved one’s spirit and soul after death. The loss of a mother is one of the most difficult good-byes we ever have to say, even when we’re not close with our moms. A candle symbolizes warmth and comfort, hope and healing.

The bereavement gift you choose depends in part on the relationship you have with your friend. It also depends on her personality. But, no matter how you choose to express your sympathy after a family death, remember that your presence and hugs are what count most. The more you listen and are available to your friend, the more comforted she’ll feel.

A Sea Glass fine art poster

Sympathy Gifts for the Loss of a MotherThe Sea Glass Fine Art Heart Poster symbolizes a beautiful sentiment for someone who is bereaved after a death in the family.

This gift is part of the The Heart Poster Collection, which is a collection of award winning photography from world famous photographer Donald Verger. His work is collected by people around the world – but that isn’t as important as how this beautiful heart poster makes viewers feel. It’s a lovely sympathy gift for the loss of a mother.

A memorial stepping stone for the garden

sympathy gift ideas for lost motherIf your bereaved friend is a gardener or just enjoys spending time in the yard, the “Those We Love Don’t Go Away” Memorial Stepping Stone is a beautiful bereavement gift idea. Engraved on it is this poem above, which is a wonderful sympathy message for the bereavement card.

A garden stepping stone is a lovely sympathy gift for the loss of a mother who loved gardening, flowers, or even landscaping.

What to say in the sympathy gift card after the loss of a mother: “You are in my heart, thoughts, and prayers. I wish you all the strength you need today and in the days to come. May you be blessed with the peace that surpasses all understanding, and may you rest knowing your mother will always be part of your life.”

A holiday ornament to help the family remember

Holidays are the most difficult times after a death in the family, so a thoughtful sympathy gift helps with this painful time. Yesterday I wrote an article about a girl who has Transverse Myelitis – it’s a neurological disorder that results in pain and paralysis. It’s a terrible illness, but Sarah is so upbeat and positive! She mentioned that her mother drives her to school every morning and is there for her no matter what. If Sarah lost her mother, she would be particularly grieved at Christmas and other holidays.

The next two sympathy gifts are holiday ornaments, to help with the loss of a mother through the holiday season.

Sympathy Gifts Loss of a Mother

Sympathy Angel Figurine

Angel and dove ornament

Pavilion Gift’s Bereavement Angel Figurine is etched with the phrase: “Angels are always near to those grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hands of God.”

It’s a beautiful bereavement message for the loss of a mother, but before you give this type of sympathy gift to a friend or coworker, be sure they believe in God.

Hand-painted angel figurine

The Sympathy Angel Holding Stars in the Sky is etched with the words, “Perhaps they are not Stars in the sky, but rather openings where our Loved Ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” This is a sympathy gift that may ease the loss of a mother, because it helps us know we aren’t alone in the universe.

Amazing Grace wind chimes

Sympathy Gifts for the Loss of a MotherThe Woodstock Inspirational Amazing Grace Chime consists of six silver color aluminum tubes, a laminated bamboo top, and windcatchers that are stained a cherry color. They’re precision tuned for superior sound and designed by professional musician Garry Kvistad. They’re suitable for outdoor use

Here’s what someone said after receiving this sympathy gift for the loss of a mother: “What a wonderful and thoughtful gift to give for any occasion, but what a treat to receive one in remembrance of a loved one. Such a delight to listen to! What an awesome way to think about my mom; listening to one of my favorite hymns, sitting outdoors, letting the gentle music calm me.”

If you aren’t sure of the “Amazing Grace” aspect of this wind chime is suitable, consider a more generic wind chime.

Encouragement to stay healthy after the loss of a mother

Research shows that the risk of a heart attack is extremely high for the bereaved in the days and weeks after losing a loved one – whether it’s the loss of a mother or a partner. The first day after a loved one died, heart attack risk was 21 times higher than normal, which declined progressively over the first month. Friends and family of a bereaved person should watch for heart attack signs and help her maintain a healthy lifestyle.

This isn’t exactly a sympathy gift idea after the loss of a mother, but if you know your friend well enough, perhaps you could somehow make it one.

Comfort candles

sympathy gift candles loss of motherI love these beautiful Comfort Candles – Hope, Faith, Joy, and Peace, which is a six inch tall candle holder, stand and tea light candle. This is one of the most thoughtful bereavement gifts for coworkers because it can be displayed at home or work.

I featured a different type of comfort candle on my article about a grandparents’ death – The Grieving Process After the Death of a Child.

What to say in the sympathy gift card after the loss of a mother: “You are in my heart, thoughts, and prayers. I wish you all the strength you need today and in the days to come. May you be blessed with the peace that surpasses all understanding, and may you rest knowing your mother will always be part of your life.”

A book about loss and grieving after a death in the family

I’ve never read Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen, but the reviews on Amazon on wonderful. It’s a beautiful coffee table book that others can pick up and read – it’ll help them understand what your bereaved’ family is going through. If your friend is a parent, this sympathy gift is especially powerful after the loss of a mother.

A plush comfort blanket

comfort blanket sympathy gift ideaThe Floral Embossed Sherpa Soft Plush Throw Blanket is one of the most practical sympathy gifts for coworkers you know well, because it gives them “permission” to sleep and process their grief. It’s like giving a stuffed teddy bear, but not as child-like.

This is one of my favorite gifts in my 17 Gift Ideas for After Mastectomy Surgery article – a soft, comforting, warm, cozy blanket. After I had surgery, all I wanted to do was curl up in a soft warm nest and sleep. Same thing after my grandma died.

A Christian sympathy gift for the loss of mother

Christian cross sympathy gift for loss of mother

Christian cross sympathy gift

This is a bereavement gift I’ve never heard of, perhaps because I’m not Catholic. I wasn’t sure I should include it on my list of bereavement gifts after the loss of a mother because you can’t give this to just anyone. But, if your bereaved friend is Catholic, this might be a great comfort after the loss of a mother.

The Wonderful Clinging Cross: Handheld Comfortable Cross is designed to perfectly fit in anyone’s hand. It’s a constant reminder that God is near and real.

Here’s the poem that accompanies this Christian sympathy gift:

When my mind is fuzzy
And my eyes are dim with tears
I need to feel Your presence, Lord,
And know that You are near.
When my heart is racing
And my thoughts have such a sting,
I tightly grasp this little cross
And prayerfully I cling.
It’s not a magic piece –
This cross Your father planned,
But when I cling to it I feel Your nail-scarred hand.

6 Sympathy Gifts for People You Don’t Know Well

The better you know your friend, the easier it’ll be to give the right sympathy gift after a death in the family. Here are a few ideas for when you don’t know the bereaved person, but you want to express your sympathy and condolences at the loss of a mother…

Sympathy gift basket

loss of mother sympathy gift basket

The Great Arrivals Sympathy Gift Basket, In Loving Memory includes a lovely bereavement card, snacks that are easy to share and eat, and free shipping.

I’m a huge fan of giving gift baskets, because they (usually) keep for a long time. They can be shared with others, if your coworker doesn’t want the items in the gift basket. If you know your coworker well enough to visit at her place, you can drop the gift basket off in person – along with a nice bottle of wine.

Memorial stepping stone

The Memorial Garden Stepping Stone includes a message of hope and remembrance. It isn’t just a bereavement gift for gardeners, it’s for anyone who has even the smallest yard or balcony. It can be hung inside or outside, which makes it a flexible gift after the loss of a mother.

A sympathy gift for a coworker after the loss of a mother

This is a simple, classy, formal bereavement gift for a coworker you don’t know well, but you connect with. This Handcrafted Pewter Paperweight says “Most Things are Difficult Before They Are Easy” – which can apply to much more than the grieving process after the loss of a mother. Personally, I’d like this type of bereavement gift if I lost my mother – I like that it’s not too sentimental.

More than a sympathy bouquet of flowers – a live plant

sympathy flower bouquet loss of a mother

sympathy gift flower bouquet

The Healing Tears – Blue and White flower bouquet isn’t sombre or depressing, like some funeral flowers can be. A bouquet of flowers is a heartwarming, uplifting way to express your sympathy and support after a mother dies. It’s a gift that brings life and light, freshness and beauty.

The best sympathy gifts for the loss of a mother bring hope and healing, because that’s what we need after a mom dies.

If you aren’t sure what type of flowers you should give in a sympathy bouquet, here’s a list of “flowers for a mother’s funeral.”

Flowers for a Mother’s Funeral

Black Rose……………death
Dark Crimson Rose…..mourning
Immortal Flowers…….unfading remembrance
Marjoram……………..comfort, consolation
Red Poppy……………eternal sleep
Strawflower………….neverending remembrance
Tea Rose…………….I’ll remember always
Weeping Willow……..mourning
White Carnation…….to honor the loss of a Mother
White Poppy…………consolation
White Rose………… honor the loss of a Father
Zinnia…………………in memory of a dear friend

Sending the right type of flowers can help you express sympathy for the loss of a mother in ways that another gift can’t. Condolence flowers portray compassion, support, and other sentiments that are difficult to put into words. The ritual of giving flowers has strong history in funerals and after the loss of a mother because the flowers themselves carrying meanings.

“One a Day” Memory Jar – Sympathy Gift for the Loss of a Mother

loss of a mother sympathy giftsThe KindNotes Keepsake Gift Jar of Messages for Condolences, Bereavement, Passing, Loss, Funerals is a creative way to honor a mom’s death. It’s a beautiful keepsake glass jar, filled to the brim with linen decorative cardstock envelopes, which can be displayed and treasured in the office or at home.

This jar contains Vintage Letters – 31 positive and encouraging sympathy messages to be opened each day of the month. Or, the recipient can reach for a sympathy note anytime they feel sad and need a little pick-me-up. This is a unique and thoughtful way to comfort a friend or loved one during difficult days, through the power of words.

Sample Messages – which can also be used in a sympathy card for the loss of a mother:

  • Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.
  • May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.
  • Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. – Theodore Roosevelt.
  • May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.
  • The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. – Helen Keller.
  • Rise above the storm, and you will find the sunshine. – Mario Fernandez.

I love this sympathy gift idea because it will remind the person of your support and compassion, long after the mother’s funeral is over.

Memory book for the funeral or celebration of life

This may be a bit too personal to be on the list of  sympathy gifts after a family death when you don’t know the bereaved well, but it’s a practical idea.

A Celebration of Life, In Memory Of… is a journal that has one page for every guest to make a note in memory of the deceased. It works for a joyous celebration of life or a somber funeral, and will help your coworker remember his or her loved one forever.

If you have any thoughts on these sympathy gift ideas after a death in the family, please comment below. I especially welcome tips for giving gifts of comfort and peace to people who are bereaved.

May you find the right sympathy gift after a family death, and may God give you the right words to say.


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2 thoughts on “Thoughtful Sympathy Gifts for the Loss of a Mother”

  1. Thank you for sharing this bereavement gift. The tree sounds like a wonderful, thoughtful sympathy gift for the loss of a mother. I agree that planting a tree is a wonderful way to memorialize any lost loved one. It’s especially significant for mothers, who are as strong and dependable as trees.

  2. We have created because when you don’t know what to say at times of loss, let the caring words in this sympathy gift in one say it for you.

    A vibrant, beautiful tree benefits everyone in this and future generations and it is perhaps the most fitting memorial of all. Planting a tree is an act of direct benefit to all.

    Honor your friends and loved ones with the gift of trees.

    Planting a tree is a wonderful way to memorialize any lost loved one.