About Laurie


My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m the Adventurous Writer who created the “She Blossoms” blog and book series. I write full-time from my treehouse overlooking the beautiful waters of Indian Arm in North Vancouver, BC, Canada.

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Jackson and Me

Who are you, where in the world are you, and what brought you here? Your story is deep, wide, and rich – and I’d love to hear from you! Are you Blossoming into who God created you to be? Stick with me; I share tips and tools to help you flourish and thrive, no matter what season you’re in.

I’m glad you’re here.

Introduce yourself in the comments section below, tell me how you are. Share something you’re excited about or proud of! Or, unload something you’re struggling with or can’t figure out. Are you winning this race or fighting a hard battle?

My purpose is to help you Blossom by accepting the rainy seasons of life, walking in the valleys, and worshipping the Son. But don’t let the poetic language fool you; I love discovering and sharing practical tips and tools for healing and growing.

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A Glimpse Into My Life

 

  • My mom struggled with schizophrenia and nervous breakdowns my whole life; I lived in three foster homes and was on my own at 17 years old. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage outside Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. That’s where I met Jackson – the horse in the picture above!

 

  • My dad is Jewish, born and raised in Jerusalem, Israel – where he still lives. I didn’t meet him until I went to Israel when I was 29 years old.

 

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for missionaries’ and ex-pat kids in Nairobi.

 

  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver.

 

  • I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister is now 16 years old (she was 11 when we were matched). I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today! She lives in Toronto, Ontario.

 

  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

 

  • I didn’t get married until I was 35…and I married Bruce, who I met 17 years earlier! He was a bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant, and I was a waitress. We were friends for a long, long time before I finally proposed! 🙂

 

  • We struggled with infertility, and can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). Those fertility treatments didn’t work; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

 

 

I’ve been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. Amazing, I love it! Every day I wonder if today is my last day of work (will the internet suddenly implode and disappear? Boy, I hope not). I love my job, and am awed by God’s blessings.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti. The older I get, the happier and more peaceful I become. And the bigger I Blossom 🙂

My purpose is to help women flourish and thrive – which is why I created Blossom Tips and How Love Blossoms. I love encouraging women over 40 to flourish in new seasons of life, ground themselves in God’s river of love, grace, freedom, and healing, and trust in the power of the Holy Spirit and Jesus to help them Blossom into who they were created to be.

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Stay in touch!

The best way to connect with me is by signing up for my emails.

You might also join our “She Blossoms” Facebook Group, and meet other women who are flourishing in different seasons of life. 

 

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My “She Blossoms” eBooks

All my ebooks include information and advice from a variety of sources. I don’t focus on my own stories or tips, though I do share glimpses of how I survived foster homes, a schizophrenic mother, family estrangement, a home invasion, three years living and teaching in Africa, infertility – and how I Blossomed into all good things. Mostly, however, my ebooks are a vibrant, rich collection of wisdom, tools, and solutions for difficult problems.

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She Blossoms how to let go of someone you love ebook

.In How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets and Practical Tips for Healing Your Heart After a Breakup, I’ll walk with you through the stormy waters and dry valleys, over the rocky mountains, to the fields of freedom. But first, you’ll say goodbye. It hurts to let go of someone you love, to cope with the pain of breaking up. Take heart, for you will heal! You’ll Blossom into who you were created to be and you’ll thrive in your new life.

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Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog.

Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog – If you’ve ever lost a dog, you know how hard it is. I’m so sorry for your loss. It always hurts to say goodbye – and you may be surprised at how terrible you feel. I’ve lost two dogs and four cats, and each loss brought its own unique pain. Life without your dog is a sad adjustment of heart and home. Whether your loss was planned or accidental, you’re grieving the end of a season of your life…and you’ll never be the same.

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Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat

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Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat – You’ll find companionship, hope, and healing after the loss of your pet cat. You’ll never forget your beloved animal, but you will feel less alone. You won’t “get over it”, but you will feel less burdened by grief, guilt, or regret. Your heart will heal, your spirits will lift, and your soul will lighten. I guarantee you’ll feel better as soon as you open your email, see Kitty Comforts in your inbox, and read my messages of hope, healing, and comfort.

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Healing Your Cycle

 

I wrote Healing Your Cycle: Your Guide to the Safest Solutions for Irregular, Spotty, or Missing Menstrual Cycles for the hundreds of women who asked for help regulating their periods. To write this “She Blossoms” ebook, I more books, blogs, and resources on women’s cycles than I could count, and found the best and most reliable ways to balance hormones and get healthy.

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My “She Blossoms” Blogs

My blogs and books help women survive trouble and turmoil by trusting God through difficult problems. I write about real life struggles such as letting go of a loved one, healing a broken heart, coping with infertility depression, or even finding the best jobs for introverted personality traits.

Relationship Blossoms started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I found my new identity in God and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women in all types of relationships.

How Love Blossoms is an offshoot of my original love blog (Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships). That blog grew way too big, so I had to weed it out. So now I have two love and relationship blogs. There’s not much difference between the two, which is crazy. Someone needs to do something about that.

Life Blossoms was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…and my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas That Will Surprise and Delight Her.

Blossom Tips is an offshoot of the original Blossom in Life blog (Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals). Again, that blog got way too big! So I had to more weeding. I dug up the most popular blog posts, and replanted them as Blossom Tips.

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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Writing Blossoms was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Health Blossoms – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

And that, my friend, is me in a nutshell!

Your thoughts are welcome on any of my blogs – I’d love to hear from you. Share your story, tell me a joke, give me advice, unburden your soul. Tell me how you’re Blossoming in your life, or what’s holding you back.

Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

In peace and passion,

Laurie

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  • Laurie Post author

    I took this “About Laurie” page offline for a little while (five years!!) because I felt overwhelmed by the comments. Now, however, I have my boundaries firmly in place. 🙂

    Feel free to share anything you’d like here. I may or may not respond, and I know you’re okay with that. I trust you, and I hope you feel safe to talk about anything on any of my Blossom blogs.

    Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Thanks for your comments – it’s great to hear from you!

    I’m sorry I can’t offer personal advice (especially to you, Vix – I hope you got my email encouraging you to get help in person).

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • bill

    i love you for your help . i wish to meet you just to give you a kiss on the cheek. you helped me deal my loss of my lil buddy. i know you dont reply to emails but as i look at your pic and see your smile i would love to have your friendship. keep doing what your good at. whenever i miss my lil buddy i look at your site and read the testimonials, ” leak” a bit, then feel better. i love you for that. can i give you a picture of my dog?
    billy

  • Vix

    Hi Laurie

    What a fantastic website and resource.

    I have Mental Health issues. Ive always had them since childhood. I was physically and emotionally abused by both my parents and left home at the age of 16. There is some low grade sexual abuse also from my father and uncles side, my dad used to give me ‘movie star kisses’ where he’d basically passionately kiss me at a young age. I reported this to my mother but it has never been acknowledged, my parents have been married 40 plus years and I don’t want to ruin their lives by confronting them about it anyway. I was horrifically bullied at school and was banned by other parents from associating with their children. I was taller than the other children and matured quicker so if I fought back I was always seen as the ‘bad one’ and punished. I’d like to add I come from a nice middle class home and had two professionally employed parents. My mother worked full time from a young age and my sister was given the task of looking after me at the age of 11 after school, I would have been about 8 at the time. I got fat, had no hobbies and no friends. By 18 I was working as an ‘escort’ taking 28 grams of speed a week and my family didn’t know where I was for 8 months.

    I’ve had several suicide attempts the first at 15 and have been in a private rehab / mental health hospital twice at ages 15 and more recently this year.

    I am currently drug and alcohol free apart from prescribed antidepressant medication Lexapro of which I take 20 mg’s daily.

    I have had stages of stability but have had many abusive relationships and bad experiences. I have gained qualifications and had quite well paying jobs, but this year after yet another abusive relationship I fell apart. I understand the cycle of violence and that DV isn’t always black and white. I was told to leave and choose my family or partner. I chose my family but unless I am who they ‘want me to be’ Im ousted, especially by my sister.
    My parents have always been there to ‘catch me’ when convenient, but I am basically blamed for everything and told I am a ‘problem’. My sister has her own issues and sides with my parents and I am accused of ‘controlling the family”, given I stay away from my family most of the time Im unsure how I do this.

    Because I have left DV relationship and am currently neither stable nor well enough to work, which is a big thing for me, as Ive worked 3 jobs before to enable myself to live. I had to return home to my parents to live with them or be homeless when I left previous relationship. I had a dog whom I love like my own child and limited options. I realise I am now 36 and a grown up, however living at home is like living in hell. I constantly blow up, and try an confront my family regarding the past, obviously this makes me very unpopular. I don’t know who I am angry at anymore.

    I feel betrayed by my parents for involving and pushing away my sister. Admittedly my sister has her own issues, but my family are also very materialistic, very judgmental people who are very hard regarding peoples humility.

    I recently moved out of my parents into a ’emergency accommodation’, I also realise in DV situations I may have been far from perfect myself and I don’t walk around wearing a ‘victim badge’.

    Im 36 and I hope to go back and study next year and work in MH and with people affected by DV.

    I need your advise, my sister has rejected me and I dont understand why as I have not done anything to her directly or indirectly. Her inability to be objective hurts me like nothing else and quite frankly I think im better off coping with a few hard months and the heart ache we may never be friends again than being continually told what a shit person I am. They dont understand my PTSD, social anxiety and major depression yet I struggle to understand my family and their needs daily.

    I love my family but need to move on. What can I do?

    With much love and thanks

    VB (from over the sea Australia) xxxx

  • Karen

    Hi Laurie

    I was looking for info about introverts and saw your site. I took the test and well I am an introvert. But I have another problem, social phobia some of the traits are similar to introvertism so now do I know if I have both problems? I recently got internet and started my own blog. And it has been a nice outlet for me. Hearing that you presonly are an introvert and have not let it affect you is an inspiration. One aways feels if you are the only one suffering this problem, until you find you are not alone.

    Karen

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Dear Shri,

    Thanks for sharing your story – I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I know how hard it is to give your dog away.

    I wrote this article, because we had to give our adopted dog away about a month after we adopted her:

    Should You Give Your Dog Away? 5 Things to Consider

    After we gave her away, I wanted her back so bad! I even went to the SPCA and asked to see her, but they said it’d be best if we just let go. They said we decided to give her away for the right reasons, and that we shouldn’t second guess ourselves now.

    The SPCA also told me to stop beating myself up. They said that we made the best decision at the time, and that we should move on.

    I can’t tell you if you should get Kromi back…but I do know that the first 3 weeks after giving our dog Jazz away were VERY difficult. I cried 2 or 3 times a day — I work from home, so felt her absence very painfully and closely. I wanted her back for at least a month after we gave her up, and I still wonder if we should’ve kept her. It’s been almost a year, and I’m still feeling guilty and second guessing my decision to give her away.

    Perhaps you’re going through the same thing I did: the guilt and heartache over missing your dog is causing you to second guess your decision. If so, then you need to mourn his absence – because it is a big loss even though he was too much for you – and let him go.

    I hope this helps…something tells me you gave Kromi up for the right reasons, and now you’re grieving the loss. That’s normal, but painful!

    Let me know how you’re doing.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Hi Laurie

    hi,

    It was comforting to read some of the posts on your blog. I’m shri…., a month back we received a labrador puppy… Kromi, in our home. We had him for a month and due to several reasons, we had to give him away to a friend. But I miss him so much and am also torn with feelings of guilt as to whether we did the right thing by giving him away. We both work and have very active lives after work so we felt it unfair that Kromi would be by himself for long periods of time. we also thought that as a couple we woudl not be abel to cope with him but we surprisingly did very well with him and very easily too…I wonder if I should take him back… as he has only been goen for 4 days.

  • tan Balili

    Hi Laurie,
    i wonder if we can collaborate in our new start up business where we will put up an online dating site with a SERIOUS INTENT OF MARRIAGE based on “scientific matching systems’ like eharmony. But our focus is really towards finding a mate to marry not just dating because we believe in the sanctity of marriage.
    So, i wonder if you can help us design a system of matching based on your experience as a psychology grad and expeience writer.
    thanks and hoping for your favorable response.
    Tan Balili

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Heiddi,

    Thank you so much for your kind words! I can’t tell you what a boost they gave me – I really appreciate it.

    Have you read the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and tried her Morning Pages? You write 3 pages first thing in the morning, every day. I’ve been doing it for about 6 weeks now, and feel more centered, balanced, happy, and confident. It’s amazing how writing the “dreck” (stream of consciousness, whatever comes into your head) can clear the decks for the good stuff. It’s like it fills your well so you have more to give. You can see clearly, and you’re more grounded.

    Since writing the MPs, I’ve developed an extreme sense of curiosity about life. I’m less anxious, fearful, insecure, and worried! I’ve replaced that with thoughts like “I wonder how this will turn out?” and “What will happen next?” and “I can’t wait to see how I deal with that!” It’s an effective way to deal with many of life’s challenges 🙂

    I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Heiddi

    Hi Laurie,

    I just stopped by reading through a few of your articles. I just wanted to share that I really love your work and want to be like you when I grow up in my writing. I’m struggling now with some personal challenges that are getting in the way of my confidence in everything that I’m doing; not only my writing. I wanted to tell you keep up the great work because you truly are helping and inspiring others. 🙂

    Heiddi

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Hello Arianna,

    Thanks for your kind comments, and your question!

    I wrote an article for you (there’s too much to say for this comments section)…

    Tips for Bloggers Who Want to Help and Inspire Readers

    I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts here or there. If you prefer that I don’t name you or link to your blog in the article, please let me know! I’d be happy to snuff you out 🙂

    All good things,
    Laurie

  • Arianna

    Hi Laurie,

    I just saw your biography in the August issue of Alive magazine and decided to go check out your blog. I’m very impressed with your work.

    I thought I would ask for your advice as I just graduated with my Master’s Degree in Educational Psychology. I have recently created a blog to bring awareness about issues (mainly pertaining to self-esteem,bullying, and sport psychology). I would like to use it as a forum to educate and empower individuals to never give up.

    I was just wondering how you got started in this area. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks! Hope you have a great long weekend.

    Arianna

  • Jeff Guenther

    Hi Laurie,

    Looks like you get this request a lot but I’d like to be a guest writer on your blog. I am a professional therapist in Portland and I have just started to write an advice and opinion column at http://www.shrinkythink.com

    I would be honored if I could write an article on psychology for you. Let me know what you think.

    Jeff Guenther, LPC

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Tiersa and Alyssa,

    Yes, I’d be happy to have you guest post! Here are my guidelines:

    Guest Posting Guidelines and Benefits – Quips and Tips Blogs

    All good things,
    Laurie

  • Tiersa Buckley

    Hi Laurie,

    I’m a writer for ChristianDating.org and would love to publish a guest post with attached bio link. My article is related to online dating. Please let me know where I can submit to if possible. Thank you.

  • Alyssa

    Hello,

    My name is Alyssa Jacobs. I have been reading through your blog and finding it very interesting. I love to write, and i think I could make a great contribution to your page. If this is something that interests you, then shoot me a quick email when you get a chance.

    Kind regards,
    Alyssa

    AlyssaMJacobs@gmail.com

  • Anne Davies

    Hello Laurie,
    I was wondering if you accepted guest articles on your site? I have an idea that I feel would be a great fit for you and your readers.

    Email me if interested, thanks!

    Kind Regards
    Anne

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Thanks for your interest in guest blogging for Quips and Tips! I’ve emailed you personally.

    Cheers,
    Laurie

  • Kimberly

    Hi Laurie,

    I would like to get in touch with you about an idea I have for a guest post for the Finances section on your site. Could you send me an e-mail when you get a chance?

    Thanks so much!
    Kimberly

  • David Spader

    Hi,

    My name is David Spader. I’m a freelance blogger who writes for SavingsAccount.org.

    Do you think you’d be interested in a guest article from me?

    I’m doing this to help get my name and my site known, so I’m happy to write about anything you’d like to suggest.

    Here’s some of my work:

    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/savings-accounts-aren%E2%80%99t-always-the-ideal-place-to-store-your-cash-assets/
    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/the-history-of-the-fdic/
    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/earn-100-with-new-checking-at-chase/

    Hope to hear from you soon.

    Best Regards,

    David Spader

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Hello Ryan,

    I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to get back to you — I’ve been on vacation, and am taking some time to catch up!

    Yes, you can use the article about breaking bad habits and creating new ones in a print format. Please don’t use it online, okay?

    All good things,
    Laurie

  • Ryan

    Laurie,

    My wife a friend and I own a small yoga studio in San Diego, and are constantly talking with people about their health and lifestyle. I came across your article “10 tips for making new habits and breaking old habits” I was wondering if I could use this article, with the proper citation of course, in some of the material we give to students and clients who work with us personally to help improve their overall state of health and wellbeing.

    Thank you,

    Ryan Glidden CPT RYT HLC1
    MOSAIC
    San Diego, CA.

  • Amy Lewis

    Hi,
    I am Amy Lewis and a financial writer. I have checked your blog theadventurouswriter.com and found some quite interesting articles on Finance with lots of information. I would be highly obliged if you allow me to do relevant informative guests post in your blog. I’ll very glad to be your guests writer and informative content for your blog.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hello Mathew,

    Thanks for your kind invitation! I’m afraid I don’t have time to write content for other sites, but I do accept guest authors. Let me know if you’d like to write a guest post for Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals.

    Laurie

  • mathew green

    Hi Laurie

    My name is Mathew Green and I am a primary teacher based in Sydney Australia. I have been looking at your site for a while now and I wanted to congratulate you on some wonderful and inspiring content. Last year I started a financial literacy website called mycents (mycents.com.au), the site aims to help young people to made sound and educated financial decisions.

    I am not sure if you are looking for contributors for your website, or if you are interested in writing content for mycents.com.au, but if you are please let me know.

    It would be great to hear you thoughts.

    If you would like to view the facebook page please go to http://on.fb.me/ex6Bie of via twitter @mycents_today

    I hope to hear from you soon

    Mathew Green
    Mathew@mycents.com.aU

  • Josh Johnson

    Hey Mrs Laurie could you help me out with your opinion, I would greatly appreciate it. Why do you think my dad checks the oil and water in my moms car for her once a month when she is the one that drives her car and pays for it? This is something I have always wondered but too embarassed to ask them myself.

  • Doreen Wade

    You have two articles I would love to publish in my on line newsmagazine.

    Your Turkey Roasting Tips
    Your 5 Healthy Holiday Gifts

    Would you give me permission. I for November one for December

    Check out my website so you will know what I am about.

  • Sherry

    Hi Laurie,

    I’m an editor at Parents.com and I’m working on a piece on how to tell kids about breast cancer for Breast Cancer Month. I came across your piece on telling kids about cancer: http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/telling-kids-about-cancer-ways-make-it-easier-to-say-mom-has-cancer/.

    I would love to know if you would be intersted in allowing Parents.com to reprint the piece while also tweaking it for our site. I’m hoping for a quick turnaround on the piece, so if you would email me back by Monday. 10/11, I would appreciate it. We can discuss more details then.

    Thank you,
    Sherry

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Dear Lynn and Sadmama,

    I’m very sorry to hear about your situations with your families. It sounds like you’re at the end of your rope – which is not a good place to be.

    I encourage you to get in-person support. I can’t give you the help you need here because I don’t have the pertinent information on your background, personality, relationships, or situation.

    Please call a counselor, social worker, spiritual leader, or a women’s helpline. You need to talk to someone in person, who can help you figure the best way to cope with your family situation and your emotions.

    Please talk to someone who can give you objective, professional support. You’re already headed in the right direction — reaching out for help and sharing what you’ve been through — and now you need to surround yourself with resources that will give you the strength and courage you need.

    I just wrote an article called How to Find Solutions to Relationship and Family Problems, which describes six ways to get help.

    Please read that article, and get in-person support – or online counseling help. I can’t offer that here.

    I wish you all the best — and welcome you to come back anytime to update me on how you’re doing!

    Laurie

  • Lynn

    Hi Laurie,
    I wrote you a couple of times under your “dealing with difficult parents for adult children”. My situation just gets worse and worse. My lastest post on your other page (it’s the second to last one), the situation just goes on and on. I hate my life, and I’m desparing over what to do. I can’t let go of my anger – whenever I see my mother I feel like slapping her. I honestly feel I hate her, and I hate my father more for what he’s done. Nobody seems to care that there is a three year old child involved. My mother made the comment to my husband that my father will never know our son, because we will not allow our son to go to my parents’ house. My husband replied that my father was welcome to come to our house and see him. To which my mother said “well, I guess he’ll never see him, then, because he’s not coming here”. Then she said to my husband “I guess your mother won”. My husband asked what she meant and she said “well, she gets to see the baby all the time, and I don’t”. His mother treats us decently, not at all the way my parents treat us. I hate them so much. I’m so sorry I came back to my hometown. To be honest, I wish things could go back to the way it was before all this happened, but it can’t. My husband wants nothing to do with my father and I can’t let go of this anger. My mother is backing up my father’s lies, and I won’t let my son around those two liars. Who knows what lies they’ll tell him when we’re not there? I told her today to get out of my house and don’t come back. I hate her. And, I hate feeling this way. I’m so torn.
    I want to hurt them and punish them for what they have done to us, and I don’t know where to turn to try to get past all this. I never want to see them again, but I wish it all had never happened. Please, please help me!!!!

  • Sadmama

    This is very difficult situation. I have been with my husband for 16 years. The first five years or so were really on again off again. We were young in love but still very immature. As a result we would break up for a few months and end up back together somehow. for the last 10years we have been very steady and love each other dearly. Although life isn’t always perfect or blissful it works. Well he just informed me that he found out he fathered a child with one of these woman from our “break” periods. I am devastated. This child will be 12soon. We have two children together 14year old girl and 10 year old boy. We also each have an child from previous relationships 18year old boy (me)and an 18 year old girl(him). How do we explain this to our kids. How do u make up for lost years with the other child. I am really struggling because I am all of a sudden faced with many insecurities I never realized I had. Fear of loosing the respect of my kids. And fear I am not strong enough to face this! Please give me some advice on how to approach this. Everytime I try to rationalize in my head I start hyperventilating and my heart starts racing. I feel like I’m mourning the loss of my family while they are all around me. Please help!!!!!!!!

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Margareta,

    Thanks for your note! Yes, I’d be honored if you reprinted that article in your book. It sounds like a fantastic resource for caregivers.

    I wish you all the best,
    Laurie

  • Margareta Comp

    Hi Laurie, I am writing a book on caregiving, Promises to Me. I took care of my husband for 13yrs off and on and was also a cna for at a home and hospice agency for 8 yrs. I enjoyed your article on How To Stop Being a People Pleaser from Psychology – Suite 101. Part of my book is asking for help.which can be difficult for caregivers,and how are they feeling about taking care of this person, and this is where your article would come in.I am asking to reprint this article in my book. Thank you and Take Care, Ann+1
    +1

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi LZJL,

    Thanks for your request — I’m honoured!

    Yes, you can reprint that article in your book. I hope it helps.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • LZJL

    Hi Laurie, I am writing a book on caregiving, Promises to Me. I took care of my husband for 13yrs off and on and was also a cna for at a home and hospice agency for 8 yrs. I enjoyed your article on How To Stop Being a People Pleaser from Psychology – Suite 101. Part of my book is asking for help.which can be difficult for caregivers,and how are they feeling about taking care of this person, and this is where your article would come in.I am asking to reprint this article in my book. Thank you and Take Care, Ann
    +1

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Kelly,

    Yes, I’d be pleased if you featured my article in your materials! I’ll email you directly.

    Best regards,
    Laurie

  • Kelly C.

    Dear Laurie,

    I’m a freelance writer/editor who is gathering content for Biotechnology Industry Organization’s annual conference in May. The content will go into a daily magazine-type print publication that is distributed to conference attendees.

    I was hoping to get permission to show your article, “Tips for Networking Successfully for Introverts,” in the magazine, of course giving you credit in any way you see fit.

    Please let me know whether you would be willing to let us show your content- it would be a perfect fit, I think, for conference attendees.

    Thanks,
    Kelly C.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi David,

    Yes, please feel free to quote my article about plastic surgery. Good luck with your essay!

    Laurie

  • David H.

    Hi Laurie,

    I was hoping to get your permission to quote your article, The Benefits of Plastic Surgery, for an expository essay that I am writing for one of my college courses. Thanks for your time and consideration.

    David H.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Dear CL,

    Yes, you may use the tips in my “How to Make Small Talk” article in your assignment. Please credit me as author, and reference the article accordingly.

    Good luck with it!

    Laurie

  • CL

    Hi there,

    I am a undergraduate from Singapore, and I would like to seek your permission to use some of the tips in this article titled “How to Make Small Talk: 10 Tips For Starting Conversations With People You Don’t Know” in my student assignment. I really hope to get your permission. Thanks!

    Cheers,
    CL

  • Pennye Sasaki-Benda

    Hi Laurie-

    Two of your articles have some valid points that I think will be fuel for discussions to deal with a morale problem that is plauging us at this point. I am requesting your permission to print up “Workplace Bullying” and “Gossiping at Work” to be distributed at our Trainer and Supervisor meetings in the form of a newsletter.

    Thanks in advance, and I look forward to reading through more of your work.

    Thanks much,
    Pennye

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    J. Fischer,

    I’m glad my articles on introverted personality traits have inspired you — thanks for letting me know! And, I was intrigued to read that trait about emotional outbursts, because it is one I wasn’t aware of. Very interesting.

    I hope to see you around again soon 🙂

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Ann,

    Thanks for your comments. Yes, you have my permission to reprint “How to Stop Being a People Pleaser” from my Psychology site at Suite 101.

    Let me know when the book comes out — I’d be happy to feature it in an article about caregiving tips, here on Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals!

    Happy writing,
    Laurie

  • J. Fischer

    Hi Laurie,

    I loved your articles on introversion, as I am pretty introverted myself. I am going to share them with my boss and everyone at work. I think they will help clear up a lot of misunderstandings!

    I would even add a trait of the introvert (I didn’t see it mentioned anywhere, but if I missed it, bear with me): We do not react well to emotional outbursts. Emotional, high-strung people freak us out, as does emotional decision-making. Probably because these situations demand an immediate response.

    But I must take issue: if you think a well-behaved woman rarely makes history, then you have highly underestimated your personal power. I assure you, we well-behaved introverted females can move mountains!

    Thank you, and keep the articles coming!

  • Ann Dressel

    Hi Laurie, I am writing a book on caregiving, Promises to Me. I took care of my husband for 13yrs off and on and was also a cna for at a home and hospice agency for 8 yrs. I enjoyed your article on How To Stop Being a People Pleaser from Psychology – Suite 101. Part of my book is asking for help.which can be difficult for caregivers,and how are they feeling about taking care of this person, and this is where your article would come in.I am asking to reprint this article in my book.
    Thank you and Take Care, Ann

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Juli,

    I’d love to help with your weight loss plan! Here are a few articles I’ve written about losing weight:

    8 Best Ways to Lose Weight

    How to Stay Motivated to Lose Weight

    5 Tips for Losing Weight and Staying Slim

    7 Tips for Working Out with Pilates Fitness DVDs

    One of my best weight loss tips is to eat small, healthy meals throughout the day — lots of protein and veggies. Read the articles, though — they contain lots of weight loss tips.

    Good luck, and happy losing!

    Laurie

  • juli

    hi I was just wondering if you could help me with my weight loss plan. Im trying to lose 5 stones in 3/4months and I was just wondering if you could help as I have seen some of your article on weight loss. Could you email please with whatever you decide. thanks in advance

  • Cory

    Hello!

    I am interested in using your article about protecting personal boundaries
    as part of our staff training. I would like your permission to reprint it for distribution.

    Please email me for more details if needed. Thank you!

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Cristina,

    I hope this finds you well, and thank you for asking about quoting from my “Leaving Your Comfort Zone” article!

    Yes, feel free to excerpt from that article. And, thanks for linking back to it — I hope it helps your readers.

    Best regards,
    Laurie

  • Cristina

    Hello Laurie,

    I was writing a short post on comfort zones and wanted to be sure it was ok with you that I quote (with your name) a part of your article ‘Leaving Your Comfort Zone”. I would also post a link back to your article so my readers can experience all the content.

    I look forward to hearing from you.

    Best,

    Cristina

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Ric,

    Yes, you have my permission to reprint my Surviving Christmas Depression article in your newsletter. Please credit me, and link back to Quips & Tips if the newsletter is online.

    Merry Christmas,
    Laurie

  • Ric (EAP)

    Hi Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, I read your article on Surviving Christmas Depression. 5 ways to Cope wiht the Hoiday Blues. I’m an EAP Rep for GM. Employee Assistance Program dealing with alcohol,drugs,mental health issues and this article had common sense tools to really help our membership. I would like your permission to publish this article in our GM News Letter. Thanks Ric.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hi Yustie,

    Thanks for asking for permission — so many people just take information without asking or attributing it to the writer! That type of theft is copyright violation.

    Yes, you can use the introverted personality test on this website for your thesis. Please attribute it to the source, and mention that you found it on Quips & Tips for Achieving Your Goals.

    Good luck with your thesis — what an interesting topic!

    All best,
    Laurie

  • yustie

    Hello Ms. Laurie

    I am doing my thesis. The title of my thesis is Self Disclosure for Introvert Student. Could I use your introvert personality test?

    I really hope to get your permission.

    Thanks,

    Yustie Ida Rahmawati
    21th, Indonesia

  • Laurie PK

    Odette,

    Thank you for your request; I’d be honored if you used my article in your textbook!

    Please cite me, Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, as the author, and indicate that the article was originally published on the Psychology at Suite101.com website.

    Good luck with the textbook and ESL classes!

    All best,
    Laurie

  • odette mercure

    Dear Ms Pawlik-Kienlen,

    I’m an English as a second language teacher working on a college level textbook. I’d be interested in using one of your articles as a reading for a comprehension exercise.

    The article I’m looking at is: “How Birth Order Changes Your Life.” It is posted at: developmental-psychology.suite101.com. My question is simply this: under what conditions would it be possible to reproduce that article in our textbook?

    In the event that you would agree to the reproduction, I would simply forward your contact information to my editor.

    Thanks in advance for your speedy response,

    Yours truly,

    Odette Mercure
    ESL Teacher
    Joliette, PQ, Canada