7 Tips for Setting Goals for People Who Hate Goal-Setting


Even though you hate setting goals, you still want to achieve stuff in your life, right? These goal setting tips are for people who need a nudge in the right direction.

Who better to get goal setting tips from, than a personal trainer and book author?

“Most of us make some form of New Year’s Resolution, usually with a health and fitness slant,” says personal trainer Caroline Radway, author of KettleBelleBody. “Yet most of us will find that by February all those good intentions have gone out of the window, and we are back to our old habits.”





If that sounds like you, read The Magic Lamp: Goal Setting for People Who Hate Setting Goals. You’ll fine tune your focus and improve your follow through.

And, read on for Radway’s steps to setting goals for your life…

7 Tips for Setting Goals for People Who Hate Goal-Setting

Instead of focusing on how much you hate setting goals, focus on what you want to achieve in your life.

1. Believe in your goals. If we truly believe in our goals they will be far easier to achieve.  Our goals need to have meaning and we need to be emotionally connected to them.  Our habits are deeply ingrained and if we don’t truly believe that we want or need to change them, it won’t be long before we slip back into old routines.  The ‘why’ is so important when you face struggles, so make sure it is strong enough to help you achieve your goals.

2. Break your goals down into manageable chunks of time instead of focusing on the entire year.  A 6-week exercise and nutrition plan will give you great results without being too daunting.  When the 6 weeks are up, you can then re-set your goals and start another 6-8 week chunk or phase.  This will keep you focused and motivated, and allow for the occasional indulgence or slip-up while ensuring you get results!

And, know that it’s okay to give up on your goals sometimes.

3. Dare to dream. While you need to truly believe in your reason for working towards a goal, sometimes it is important to suspend disbelief and allow yourself to dream big!  Find a balance between keeping your goals realistic and still achievable. For extra motivation, read 10 Tips for Improving Your Luck.

4. Write down your goals, then look into each goal in more detail and determine what you actually need to do in order to be successful.  You may realise at this point that you have bitten off more than you can chew – so prioritise!  Better to focus on one or two more important goals and actually achieve success, than to spread yourself too thinly and not achieve anything.



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5. Visualise your goals. Writing down your goals is the first step to making them real.  Posting these goals up somewhere you can see them on a regular basis further increases your chances of success, as you are constantly reminded of what you want to achieve, especially if you have included a behavioural element to the goals.

Visualization can help you overcome different types of fears, such as being scared to quit your job.

6. Take consistent action. No matter what, make sure you take regular action every day toward your goal.  Now you have your plan, this is much easier – you are no longer ‘winging it’ but you have a clear strategy.  This should mean you don’t feel overwhelmed and means that you know exactly what you need to do.  And that really is the key – it is what you actually do, the action that you take, that makes the difference.

7. Remember that it’s simple, but not easy. Setting and achieving goals may be simple but it’s not necessarily easy, and that you are bound to face obstacles and challenges.  Some of these you will navigate easily, others will be harder to overcome.  Being prepared and ready for some hard work is really important.

Do these tips help you hate goals less, or inspired you to set and achieve goals? I welcome your thoughts below…

Caroline Radway is a Personal Trainer in the UK. 



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3 thoughts on “7 Tips for Setting Goals for People Who Hate Goal-Setting

  • Laurie Post author

    Thanks Kristina! I’ll have to visit your site – it looks like it’s got good information on goal setting 🙂

  • Kristina B.@Personal Growth

    Great and easy to follow advices, Laurie. I like when you say that we should break our goals into manageable chunks of time instead of focusing on the whole year. It basically means you want us to determine the short term goals and define them before the long term ones. It just really might work like that.

  • Laurie Post author

    The best way to achieve your goals – especially if you hate setting goals – is to pretend you’re not setting goals! Instead, find something you’re passionate about and that you love to do, and focus on working towards that thing.

    It’s easier if we have solid examples to discuss, so if you have any questions on setting goals, please don’t be afraid to ask.