Creating a lifetime of love and happiness with your spouse or partner is alot less difficult with these tips! Here, Dr Sue Johnson — author of Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love — focuses on building strong marriages, based her work with emotionally focused therapy (EFT).
“You think love is illogical, random and mysterious, yes?” asks Dr Johnson. “Not anymore! We have cracked the code. In the last few years, social scientists and therapists who practice emotionally focused therapy (or EFT) have made a breakthrough. Now, at the beginning of the 21st century, we have a map to this passion, this fever that has baffled poets and lovers all through human history.”
For more info on Dr Johnson’s book, click Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. And, read on for her tips for a lifetime of love and happiness…
10 Tips for a Lifetime of Love and Happiness With Your Partner
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1. We are born to need each other. The human brain is wired for close connection with a few irreplaceable others. Accepting your need for physical and emotional connection is not a sign of weakness, but of maturity and strength.
2. In a marriage, there is often a mixture of anger, sadness but most of all, fear. Fear of being abandoned and rejected. This hurt registers in the same part of our brain as physical hurt, and it is hard to push these feelings aside or ignore them. One of the first tips for a lifetime of love and happiness with your partner is to pinpoint the feeling and then to send clear messages about this hurt to the one you love.
3. The strongest among us are those who can reach for others. Love is the best survival strategy of all. We all long for a safe haven love relationship. Self-sufficiency is just another word for loneliness. So, if youwant a lifetime of love and happiness, then say what is in your heart!
The rest of this article has been moved to my new site, “Quips and Tips for Love Relationships.”
Please click 10 “Love Laws” From Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy to continue reading!
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Dr. Sue Johnson is a psychologist and the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.