In 1888 Alfred Nobel’s brother Ludvig died. A French newspaper mistakenly published Alfred’s obituary, condemning him for inventing dynamite.
“The merchant of death is dead,” said the obituary. “Dr. Alfred Nobel, who became rich by finding ways to kill more people faster than ever before, died yesterday.”
Alfred – who never married or had children – was disappointed with his obituary. He was also concerned with how he would be remembered….and so he created the Nobel Prize. In his last will and testament, he set aside the bulk of his estate to be awarded to excellence in science, chemistry, medicine, and literature.
All because he was unhappy with his obituary.
What would you NOT want your obituary to say?
“Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen always wanted to be a writer, but she was distracted by TV, homemade chocolate chip cookies, and fear of what people think. She never clearly nor enthusiastically wrote about her passion – which could have been about becoming truly alive and authentic in God. We’re not sure.
Sometimes she talked about encouraging women to stop getting their self-image from men, relationships, children, work, clothes, appearance, weight, or income….but mostly she just kept spinning her wheels. She didn’t really devote herself to her ‘passion.’ She called herself a Christian, and sometimes came alive in the Spirit…but she mostly was wrapped up in the world and her own little insecurities. RIP little Laurie.”
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How would you live differently if you had 6 months left?
I’m taking a 12 week Genesis Process program through my church. It’s a group program that helps people understand what is broken in them, so they can fix it. It’s a recovery process used by many Christian addictions counselors – and it’s a powerful resource for anyone who finds themselves repeatedly doing things they don’t want to do. Unhealthy things, like overspending, under-eating, or wrestling with the same old relationship, work, or life problems.
One of last week’s questions was the “six months left to live” question – and it reminded me of how and why the Nobel Prize was created.
If I had six months left to live, I would respond to every blog comment left by every reader. It doesn’t seem possible because I get too many comments – plus I’m not called to give advice. But my heart goes out to ever person who comments on my blog posts, and I’ve decided to devote 30 minutes a day to responding to comments.
Take time to consider how your life would change if you had six months left. You don’t have to commit to making changes…just allow your imagination to dream big.
Meeeeoowwww Now, While You Can
Speaking of readers’ comments, here’s the funniest comment I’ve ever received! It’s in response to last week’s Say “Meeeoowww” and You Will Blossom Like a Cat newsletter:
“I rescued my cat from the Hong Kong SPCA in September 2000. After many adventures in Asia, we moved to my home, North Carolina. My landlady said she walked her cat on a leash all the time, so I gave it a shot. Picasso is the slowest walker I’ve ever seen. I let go of the leash most of the time. She was busily observing, i.e. smelling, everything. If I were 10% as observant as she is, I would surely blossom. Right now she’s sleeping on the couch, though. Adequate sleep also helps you blossom. I haven’t tried meowing in public, but it would make those networking events more interesting.” – from Michael LaRocca of MichaelEdits.com.
If your dream is to write a book, Michael would be a fun editor to work with!
In peace and passion,
Fresh Blossoms This Week
How to Get Out of Bed When You’re Grieving a Difficult Loss – “I feel empty,” says MW on Living Alone After the Death of a Spouse. “My husband was ill from the age of 34. I cared for him for 45 years; he died when he was 68. I’m now in my late 60s and I don’t know what makes me happy or what to do. I think ‘Oh well I’m not going anywhere what’s the point of getting dressed?’ I can’t be bothered and I know this is not healthy. I have no idea what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.”
7 Practical Ways to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes – Yes, you can learn how to forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Your failures are behind you; you don’t have to carry them anymore. You learned from your mistakes, and you’re stronger, kinder, and wiser now.
How to Be Happy as a Childless Woman – Single or Married – On my post 5 Practical Ways to Cope With Childlessness, a reader said she wasn’t comforted by my advice because she’s not married. “How can I be happy as a childless woman?” she asks. She feels that single childless women have a different set of problems when it comes to learning how to be happy. I think she’s right. Married woman who can’t have children may have a built-in source of comfort in their husbands…but they may also have a built-in source of pain, disappointment, and loneliness. Here are five tips on how to be happy as a married childless couple, and five tips for being happy as a single woman who can’t have kids.
5 Steps to Overcoming Insecurity in Your Relationships – Inspired by a comment from a reader who is struggling with deep feelings of anxiety and insecurity in her marriage. “I feel so lost within myself,” says Tee on How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship. “My husband is so confident, it makes me feel different. Our relationship started out rocky and has grown, but I feel so scared when he leaves for work that he might confide in other women for things I might not have within myself.
How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Get On With Your Life – These seven simple, effective tips on how to stop thinking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend will help you overcome obsessive thoughts. Take heart, for you will move on with your life. You can stop ruminating about the past – and you can rebuild your life, renew your heart, and restore your joy!
What to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Have Time for You – “I am always lonely, and I complain to him,” says D on 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You. “He says he understands that I need to give him time and we both need to weather the storm together. It’s been five months, and I’m lonely and confused. Is he not interested in me anymore? What do I do?”
May you see God’s blessings and gifts in every step you take today. May you be grateful for each breath you take, every person you encounter, and every beautiful thought that occurs to you. May His Spirit lift your soul and fill your heart. May you find freedom, peace, and joy no matter what the world brings.
May you Blossom.
Laurie's "She Blossoms" Books
Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back offers hope, encouragement, and strength for women walking through loss. My Blossom Tips are fresh and practical - they stem from my own experiences with a schizophrenic mother, foster homes, a devastating family estrangement, and infertility.
How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets (and Practical Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is filled with comforting and healthy breakup advice. The Blossom Tips will help you loosen unhealthy attachments to the past, seal your heart with peace, and move forward with joy.
When You Miss Him Like Crazy: 25 Lessons to Move You From Broken to Blossoming After a Breakup will help you refocus your life, re-create yourself, and start living fully again! Your spirit will rise and you'll blossom into who you were created to be.