About Me

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Me, on my honeymoon in St Maarten

My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time blogger. I created “She Blossoms”, which is a series of blogs to help you listen to the still small voice, get out of your own way, and Blossom in your life.

Can you believe I’ve been earning a full-time living as a blogger and freelance writer since 2008? Amazing! Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t make it as a writer, artist, doctor, astronaut, preacher, or surfer.

Listen to that still, small voice inside of you. You will Blossom.

Random Stuff About Me

I welcome your thoughts in the comments section below – but the first thing you need to know about me is that I don’t give advice to anyone about anything. Unless their skirt is on fire and I see a bucket of water nearby. Even then, I wouldn’t give advice. I’d pour water on the flames.

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Language Arts and Journalism at Rosslyn Academy – an American school in Nairobi.
  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton.
  • Until recently, I was a full-time grad student at the University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver. I earned my MSW (Master of Social Work).
  • I was a volunteer Big Sister through the Big Sisters organization for three years. I was a Little Sister when I was 10 or 11, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister, who lives in Toronto, Ontario.
  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of publications, including Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.
  • My dad was born, raised, and currently lives in Jerusalem, Israel. He’s Jewish. I’m Christian. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage outside Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. She’s struggled with schizophrenia my whole life. I lived in foster homes as a child.
  • My husband and I can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization or IVF, though we did try intrauterine insemination or IUI. We also chose not to adopt or foster kids.
  • I’ve written several ebooks. How to Let Go of Someone You Love: 3 Powerful Secrets (and 75 Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is my most popular.

My purpose is to help women Blossom – which is why I created She Blossoms. It’s my latest, greatest blog! I’m particularly enchanted with the idea of encouraging women over 40 to flourish in a new season of life.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti. The older I get, the happier and more peaceful I become. And the bigger I Blossom 🙂

Other ways to stay in touch with me:

But I spend almost no time on Facebook or any social media site, which is why it’s best if you subscribe to my Blossom newsletter 🙂 .

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My Blossom Blogs

Blossom in Love started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I “rebranded” and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women in all types of relationship situations.

Blossom in Life was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…and my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas for Her – Creative and Thoughtful.

Blossom in your Writing was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Blossom in Health – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

My eBooks

The “quips and tips” in my ebooks are not the same as the “quips and tips” on my blogs! All my ebooks include information and advice from a wide variety of sources. My ebooks aren’t just my tips — they’re me tapping into the brains of smart, experienced, educated, helpful people, and sharing what I learned.

75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Lovehow to let go of someone you love – to help people let go of the past and move on with their lives. Letting go is one of the most painful things you’ll ever do…but there are ways to make it easier.

How to Survive the Loss of Your Pet – for people who are struggling to cope with pet loss. I interviewed veterinarians, grief experts, and pet owners who loved and lost their animals. This ebook contains 75 tips for healing after pet loss.

75 Ways to Make (More) Money Blogging – to help writers and bloggers make money doing what they love! If you spend time and energy on your blog, you deserve to earn a few bucks for your efforts. This ebook isn’t just about making money blogging, it’s about building a better blog.

73 Ways to Fire Up (or Just Fire!) the Muse – to help writers and bloggers overcome fear, self-doubt, criticism, and uncertainty. After all, who wants to read age 95 and wish they had written that bestselling novel? Who wants to die with unfulfilled dreams and desires? Not me.

80 Ways to Say “I Love You” – was to help people like me, who struggle to find the right holiday, anniversary, and birthday gifts for their partners! This ebook is about more than gifts, though — it’s about saying “I love you” and building a more meaningful relationship in small, incredibly important ways every day.

That’s me, in a nutshell. What say you? Comments and questions welcome below. I can’t give advice, but I love hearing from readers…

In peace and passion,

Laurie

27 Responses

  1. Laurie says:

    Thank you so much for your comments! You made my day brighter and happier, and I will return here often to re-read your lovely thoughts 🙂

    May you be filled with light, life, love, and peace that surpasses all understanding.

    Laurie

  2. Rita paul says:

    hey Laurie thank you so much for your amazing advice and inspirations that changes my life simply I might not have a lot to say but I know I used to have a lots of things to change in my life and I’m seeing the way thank you so much God bless.

  3. Mike says:

    Hello Laurie, as a man, I’ve very much enjoyed tapping into your website. Your observations and insights into the human condition, particularly involving that ‘ol devil called love’, offer compassion and hope, not only to women, but also men, who also need to know how to let go and recover from one of life’s most difficult traumas, and as a man of faith I applaud you for your acknowledgement to God’s work in our lives, and that only He wants the best for all of us. Thank you for your wise and helpful words, keep on trucking!

  4. Ruth Ann Brooks says:

    God bless you Laurie. You’re prayer after a breakup was so beautiful. I would cry but Lord knows I’ve bawled so much over my break up. Yes, I was seemingly in love with this man but he was selfish and confused and I broke it off to possibly spare me a future heartbreak. It was hard letting go and I doubt that I’m in the clear but like him, I have to be selfish too and focus on me. In the midst of it I can only seek and trust God although it is real hard.
    Anyway girl…I love that you love God and your advice is sound, sensible and timely.

  5. Lizzie P. says:

    Hi Laurie! Thank you so much for your many pearls of wisdom. I am 11 months post a five year relationship breakup and I am humiliated to admit I still to this day like every feel like I am slowly dieing inside. I have done everything to get over him … Even seeing a psych Dr bi monthly for medication and therapy. I am so broken and I feel my life has been destroyed. See my ex was a former drug addict who dumped me after I spent every dime and ounce of energy on him to get him clean. Well he’s clean and dumped me like a pile of crap after getting off drugs and finding someone new. Laurie I would greatly appreciate any pearls you could share with me! I know I’m wasting my life and hurting others… But my pain is not about them! I so feel like doing. Hugs! Lizzie

  6. jan attard says:

    keep growing strong each and every day as you go through the stages of leaving abusive relationships…
    this is the key and never give up
    believing in yourself

  7. dalexis says:

    Hey Laurie,

    I came across on some pretty cool academic research that proves that mindfulness makes you more attractive to the opposite sex and that it enables you to deal with breakups.

    The paper by Janz, Pepping and Halford of the University of Queensland and La Trobe University, determined that women prefer men who possess a high level of “dispositional mindfulness,” even to those who are much more attractive.

    If you’d like me to forward that research your way, let me know and I’ll gladly send it over.

    Dalexis

  8. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks, Julia – it’s so lovely to hear from you!

    You brightened up my day, and I really appreciate your comments.

    In peace and passion,
    Laurie

  9. Julia says:

    Dear Laurie,
    thank you so much for this site! I’ve just posted a comment in one of your forums but simply had to go and see what else is there on your blog. I am currently struggling in my relationship but your words gave me hope. Maybe I just have to be more patient..and if things don’t turn out the way I expected I can still check out your thoughts on “how to mend a broken heart” etc. . Thanks for being there! God bless. All the best from Germany, Julia

  10. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Michael,

    Thank you for your comment – and for your amazing family travel blog! Wow, it’s incredible to see what you’re experiencing. Very cool, thank you for sharing.

    Yes, you may quote me….and send me the link when you do! 🙂

    Blessings and safe sailing,
    Laurie

  11. Michael Robertson says:

    Hi Laurie, I’ve been enjoying your blog, thank you. I am writing a writing book and found something brilliant you wrote on your blog I’d like to quote, with your permission. Please email me. All the best, Michael

  12. Shania Koenigshof says:

    Hi Laurie, I like writing and I was wondering if you could give me advice on journalism and such. Thanks.
    Cordially,
    Shania, a junior in highschool

  13. Laurie says:

    Hi Lynn,

    Thank you for being here! I wrote this article for you:

    http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-help-a-friend-in-an-abusive-relationship/

    I hope it helps, and wish you all the best as you move forward with your friend.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  14. Lynn says:

    Laurie,
    I just found your website and was almost in tears reading your kind expressions of encouragement and prayers for strength for those who are struggling. I came looking for ideas on how to encourage a friend who is in an abusive relationship, but didn’t see anything. Have you written anything for those of us who are trying to help a friend, or perhaps have a suggestion on where to go for resources?

    Thanks for what you are doing. It is a field foreign to me, but I can see that you are impacting so many through this blog.

  15. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Dear Cindy,

    Thank you so much for pointing this out to me! I added the word NEVER to that sentence, which makes all the difference in the world.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  16. Cindy says:

    Laurie,

    Typo serious
    In: 5 stages of leaving abuse
    Sentence:
    These five stages of abuse below are based on research. It’s important to remember it’s a woman’s “fault” that she’s staying in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.
    Thank you for all you do

  17. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Hope,

    I wrote this article for you: http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-free-yourself-from-obsessive-thoughts/

    I hope it helps, and wish you all the best in your journey.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  18. janet attard says:

    laurie,

    I just wanted to say thank you….
    this amazingly wonderful forum on the stages of leaving an abusive relationship
    shows us we are not alone out there….yahhhhhh
    we are all vulnerable…that is ok….
    that is ok…we must learn to
    love ourselves and not be
    afraid to move past victim role
    there are many many great books
    ….
    Mothers on Trial
    Trauma and Recovery
    so many more….
    ………….

    jan

  19. Hope Mosteller says:

    Hi Laurie-
    I met a wonderful man, who from the beginning kept saying that he was in love with me. I liked him, but never at the time said: “I Love You”. He would always say you’ll fall in love with me, you’ll see.
    Well, six months later I was obsessed with this man and so in love with him. My world revolved around him. Butterflies in my stomach, just knowing he was coming to see me.
    July, my job layed me off and he stopped calling me and would not return my calls. When he finally called me, his response was that he fell out of love with me and that he’s so sorry that he pulled me into his web. This man has been in the military his whole life and has issues with PTSD. He immediately started seeing another woman, but only sees her one day a week. He said that he doesn’t see her often, because he doesn’t want to hurt her the way he hurt me. I am obsessed over this man. I find myself driving past his house. I even found out who the woman was and went to see what she looked like. I have gone out on a few dates, but I find my thoughts floating back to him. Please give me some advice on how to get past him.
    Hope

  20. Laurie says:

    Dear Victoria,

    Thank you for being here – I hope you are surviving this huge change in your life! You’re moving on to a new chapter, and it’s both scary and exciting. At least, I hope it’s a bit exciting for you 🙂 You are on the road to getting healthy and strong.

    I’m not sure what sort of advice you need about moving out, but I wrote this article for you:

    I hope it helps, and wish you all the best as you move forward. My prayer for you is that you find the right friends to support you and the resources you need to be happy, healthy, and strong. Most of all, I pray for emotional and spiritual strength, so you can face whatever lies ahead. May you find the answers you seek, and learn how to live with the questions.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  21. Victoria Felder says:

    hello my name is Victoria and ive been dating a guy for 3 years and im in love but we have been fighting for a long Time nonstop its been to the point where im done for good but I need help moving on with my life hes the only I tought of being with but now im moving I did the first step by changing my phone number what do I do now?

  22. Laurie says:

    Thanks for your comment, Christine. While I wish I could respond to every person who writes in, I just can’t! I agree that I shouldn’t have missed the comment that particular reader made – but sometimes I get so many comments, I can’t keep up.

    That’s why I encourage readers to seek counseling in person, and tell them I can’t offer personal advice. I could make things worse by trying to advise people online, especially when it comes to love and relationships.

    I write articles that give information and try to encourage people to seek help in person. I try to encourage them to get support and guidance, and am honest and clear about the fact that I can’t offer personal advice or counseling.

  23. Christine says:

    I read your blog this morning and there is a post from a woman who is wishing she would die. The post was made within the last month. Don’t you think you have a moral obligation to respond to her post or seek the advice of a professional? When you create a highly emotional meta tag site you should have a plan to respond to posts.

  24. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Tiersa,

    Here are my guidelines:

    Guidelines – Writing for Quips and Tips

    Looking forward to hearing from you!

    Laurie

  25. Tiersa says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I have a guest post article ready for your site and was wondering if you could e-mail again, so that I can make sure it conforms to your guidelines. Thanks!

  26. LauriePK says:

    Derek,

    Thank you for being here — I’m glad you took the time to comment! Good luck in your chosen path; I’m sure you’ll be incredibly helpful to people.

    Best wishes,
    Laurie

  27. Derek says:

    I just wanted to say that I stumbled upon your website while visiting MyBlogGuest. I’m in awe of the helpful information you provide to your readers and your background and experience. I can see why you are a successful Author, Writer and Freelance Blogger. I hope to one day be able to help people mend broken relationships and better their lives as you appear to be doing through your websites and writing.

    Best wishes,

    Derek

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