17 Comforting Gift Ideas for a Loved One at the End of Life 3


Comfort and warmth are the best gifts you can give someone who is dying. These gift ideas include practical items that make life easier at the end and heartfelt messages of love and support. Spending time together is the best gift you could give someone at the end of life – but you also want to offer a physical symbol of your love and support.

gifts for people who are dyingThe  Zyllion Shiatsu Pillow Massager With Heat is a useful gift that brings comfort and warmth to someone dying. At the end of life, she may feel aches and pains that she never felt before…and this deep-kneading shiatsu massager has nodes to help relax and relieve muscle tightness. The heating function soothes aching muscles, and the ergonomic design is perfect to use on lower- and upper-back, neck, abdomen, calf, and thigh areas. The adjustable strap secures the cushion to a favorite chair, and the massager is equipped with an Overheat Protection Device and programmed with 20-minute Auto Shut-Off to ensure safety.

You may find yourself searching endlessly for “the perfect gift” for a dying person – but that is a lot to expect. Don’t pressure yourself to try to find a gift that exactly represents what you want to say or how you want her to feel. Instead, take a deep breath. Allow your feelings of fear and discomfort to rise up in you, and then out. Feeling afraid of death and scared to die is normal. Know that the gift you give someone at the end of life is less important than the time you spend with her and the thoughts you share. Scroll through these gift ideas, and see if any resonate with you…





Has your loved one created a list of things she wants to do before the end comes? I recently wrote about making a bucket list – and that could be a gift for someone who is dying. Sit down with her, talk about the things she most wanted to experience in life, and see if you can find a way to give that gift. You might have to be super creative; for instance, instead of visiting an ashram in India, you might invite a yogi over for a home yoga lesson.

Thoughtful and Comforting Gifts for Someone Who is Dying

This list of ideas is wide and varied, to help you find what you’re looking for. Remember, though, that the best gift for someone at the end of life is your presence. You may feel uncomfortable, scared, anxious, depressed or angry at the thought of death, but it’s important to work through your painful emotions before you sit with her.

According to the books on dying I’ve read, the best gift for someone at the end of life is to put aside your emotions and just be there for her.

The gift of understanding the feeling of being at the end of life

gifts for someone who is dyingIn Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley reveal how people who are dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments. This book will also show you the gifts of wisdom, faith, and love that someone who is dying will leave for you.

This book is filled with practical advice on how to respond to the requests of a person at the end of her life, as well as how to support her as she prepares emotionally and spiritually for death. Final Gifts shows how we can help dying people live fully to the very end.

Personalized teddy bear for comfort and warmth

teddy bear gift for someone at end of lifeRitzPix Custom Teddy Bear is a sentimental and sweet gift. The bear’s removable t-shirt can be personalized with photos and/or messages of love and support.

The fur on this bear is super soft, and the eye and nose buttons are embroidered (not hard plastic). You can personalize your loved one’s name, or the names of her family members on the t-shirt. This is a comforting item to have and hold when they’re alone, or when they just need a hug. You can also write an uplifting message or even a Scripture verse to help her get through the dark hours.

Pet therapy – kitten or puppy love

If your loved one loves animals, maybe you could bring a puppy dog or kitten for a brief visit. A baby is another source of comfort and cheer for sad souls…but there really is something about furry little creatures that warm the heart and soul. Even people who don’t really like dogs or cats find themselves smiling while watching a puppy or kitten play. If you bring your pet to visit a loved one in a hospice or hospital, make sure he or she is open to the experience. I would love to be surrounded by animals when I die, but not everyone feels the same way.

Soft, warming candles to warm the room

Most Comforting Gifts You Can Give Someone Who is DyingThe Flameless Candles with Bright White Warm LED Lights are a soothing way to warm any room. These flameless candles are a wonderful gift for someone at the end of life; they include a remote control as well as dimmable and timer options.

If you think candles with real flames are better gifts, make sure you purchase ones that don’t have a scent. A dying person’s sense of smell may be more acute, and she may find scented candles overwhelming. Natural soy candles are your best bet. You might pair a candle gift set with a warm, comforting fleece blanket. Bring a book to her bedside, and spend an hour or two reading out loud. Your presence will bring comfort and peace.

Comforting fleece blanket

gift ideas for end of life careI love this Super Soft Warm Micro Plush Blanket with Sleeves – it’s a mink fleece sherpa cozy wrap (also known as a warm wearable throw rug). A lot of names for a soft blanket you can wear and put your head and arms through!

This fleece blanket with sleeves leaves your arms and hands free to read, eat and drink, or hold a kitten or puppy during pet therapy sessions. The blanket is a soft and comforting gift for the end of life, and will keep your loved one warm and happy. Some dying people feel cold all the time and can never have too many blankets.

A MicroPlush Electric Heating Blanket might be one of the best gifts for people at the end of their lives. The heat is low and consistent, and can easily be adjusted by the flick of a finger. There is a pre-heat feature so the blanket has time to warm up before she climbs into bed.

A beautiful cremation urn for after she has passed on

An urn for your loved one’s ashes may seem like the worst gift idea for someone who is dying, but you may be surprised by her response. If you and she have talked about cremation or burial, funeral or “celebration of life”, memorial service or her ashes sprinkled in the ocean… you might want to talk about cremation urns or caskets.

Many artisans and artists make beautiful, creative cremation urns. If your loved one is open to talking about death, think about discussing end-of-life arrangements with her. You might even talk about decorating the coffin together. I recently wrote about different types of cremation urns for a loved one’s ashes. Just allow yourself to consider various ideas about memorial urns for your loved one.







A Willow Tree figurine

gifts for someone who is dyingThe Willow Tree “Soar” Figurine pictured is one of my favorite works of art. It’s a picture of a girl holding a dove, getting read to let it go. Artist Susan Lordi hand carves the original of each willow tree figurine from her art studio in Kansas city, Missouri.

The Willow Tree figurines is an intimate line of figurative wood symbols that speak in quiet ways to heal, comfort, protect and inspire. They arrive in a gift box, ready for gift giving with an enclosure card. This “Soar” figurine is a gentle reminder of letting go, of acceptance and surrender.

Time, tea, and talking

How much time have you spent talking with your loved one? This is an important and valuable gift to give someone at the end of life.

When my aunt was dying, my sister refused to visit her. “I want to remember her how she was when we were young,” she said. “I don’t want to see her now that she’s dying.” I felt this way too! It’s terrible and painful to see someone waste away from ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease), but I would’ve felt worse if I hadn’t visited my aunt before she died. As painful as it is, spending time with someone at the end of her life is the best gift you could give.

A journey through her photo albums

Looking through photo albums can be a comforting way to connect with someone who is dying. This gift is bittersweet, and it does take courage and strength to talk about the past and prepare for the future. But the simple act of sitting down with your loved one and talking about the photos in the album or on the screen can be a healthy and beautiful gift for someone who is dying. And for you, too.

Sit down with her, and tell each other what you remember about the photos taken. Reminisce. Talk about what you loved best about your memories, and what you wish happened differently.

A book about life after death

gift for somebody who is dyingSome people want to talk about their own death, while others prefer to avoid it. If your loved one is able to read and open to reading about the end, then a book about dying might be a good gift. The First Phone Call from Heaven by Mitch Albom might be inspirational and comforting. Remember, though, that the most thoughtful gift for someone who is dying is one that meets her where she’s at. Don’t push her, or over-protect her.

Live music to cheer and comfort

Almost everyone enjoys listening to music, right? A wonderful, thoughtful gift idea for someone who is dying might be music from the beginning of her life, or the happiest time of her life. Or, maybe she’d prefer music that doesn’t remind her of the past…maybe she’d like to listen to music from the 20s. Can you hire a jazz trio or an a capella  group to play and/or sing for a few hours?

A lighthearted movie or internet video

Death is serious business, but it doesn’t have to be morbid or depressing. You’re grieving, your family is grieving, and your loved one is grieving the end of her life. It’s very sad, and life is too short. But, just because life is short doesn’t mean we have to spend it being grim. Try to find ways to lighten the mood and laugh. My plan is to write more articles with ideas on how to bring lightness and laughter to the end of life, because I believe that’s one of the best gifts you can give someone dying.

An interesting way to record her memoirs – or session with a life history writing service

gift ideas for people who are dyingLetters to My Grandchild: Write Now. Read Later. Treasure Forever  is a creative gift idea for someone who is dying. It’s different than a traditional book about writing your memoirs, and less intimidating than hiring a professional life history writer. At the end of life, most people don’t want to sit down and talk about everything with a stranger.

Many people don’t realize how much history is lost when someone dies, and they regret not writing down their family’s life history. This “Oprah’s Pick” gift consists of 12 prompted letters. They offer an immediate way for grandparents to give the gift of a lifetime to a grandchild of any age. When favorite memories and words of wisdom are sealed with the included stickers and postdated for future opening, this paper “time capsule” becomes a priceless heirloom for generations to cherish.

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The story of her life – a digital voice recorder

gift for someone dyingA Digital Voice Recorder is a perfect gift for someone who wants to tell the story of her life before it ends. If your loved one is talkative and has lots of last words to share, simply encourage her to start talking. She can speak into a digital voice recorder, and share You might also help them write their memoirs with a book about how to write your life story. This gift for someone who is dying is positive, because it focuses on life after she’s gone.

At the beginning of this list of gift ideas for someone who is dying, I mentioned a bucket list. If you don’t know if your loved one has one, ask about it. She may feel sad that she didn’t do everything on her bucket list, but she will be grateful that you’re willing to talk about it.

If none of these gifts for someone dying appeals to you, consider asking your loved one what gift she would like most. Maybe she just wants to go to the park, or take a drive out in the country. Maybe she wants to sit and watch you bake cookies, or swim in a lake.

A beautiful nightlight booklight lamp

gift ideas for someone who is dying end of lifeI recently discovered the Lumio Nightlight Booklight — a book-shaped lamp that you don’t plug in — and I had to include it in this list of gifts for elderly people. When you open the book, it turns on; when you close the book, it turns off. 

The LED lamp’s usage is flexible and creative; it can be used as nightlight, droplight, desk lamp, unique decoration, outdoor light, etc. This is a great gift for older parents and grandparents.

This beautiful lamp is featured on 14 “Sleepytime” Gifts for Insomniacs and People Who Can’t Sleep (so if your loved one doesn’t sleep well, you might head over there).

You’ve reached the end of my gift guide for people who are dying; it’s time to scroll back up and click on the gift that resonates with you. If you have any gift ideas, please share below. I welcome your thoughts and comments. May you find the right gift for someone at the end of life, and may you give without fear, anxiety, or pain.

If your loved one was a fan of road trips and automobiles, read Vroom! The Best Gifts for Car Enthusiasts and Guys Who Love to Drive. You might find a surprisingly comforting gift idea in that list.




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3 thoughts on “17 Comforting Gift Ideas for a Loved One at the End of Life

  • Ron Pusl

    Several years ago my brothers wife died of pancreatic cancer. My wife spent the last several months with her and said that one of the best gifts she used was a journal. She entered information on a daily basis. Some of the information was good and some was not so good, however, she had the opportunity to document how she felt and viewed those who were part of her life.

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you for your thoughts, John! AmericasFootprints.com sounds like a wonderful gift for someone who is dying. I’ll look into it.

  • John Derrim

    Love the idea of the digital recorder. What better way to pass the time then to talk about your life story. One place I would also add to the list is AmericasFootprints.com. I joined about a year ago and it’s a pretty cool way to preserve your story for the next generations. Definitely a gift I would consider for someone who may not have much time left. Great article!